Sex Education at school. (Please bear in mind this is a "frank" post).

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mustangclaire

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My boy is ten. They have, this week at school, got down to the nuts (cough) and bolts of "how babies are made", and what it entails.
I think it's going very well.
He came home yesterday, pretty amazed at how babies are made, and today came out of school and the first thing he said was "Hey mum, we learnt about erections today. And pubic hairs. And something called condoms".
I like that they are teaching them about this, at this age. We've had a chat about what he's learnt, and I've asked him how his class-mates are handling all this information. I think at this age, they are taking it quite seriously, too young to be smutty, but old enough to understand.
I remember when I was at school, it all seemed to revolve around rabbits (not the battery kind) and all seemed rather vague. And my mum whisked my twin sister and I round to her best friends house who was a nurse who explained in a purely biological sense what happened, I swear there was a flip chart and diagrams. Have to say this did not encourage me to open up to my mum about sex etc at all, and left me feeling vaguely mystified by the whole business.
Yet I feel my boy, and his year group (how it is taught these days) are being far better prepared. It's not being taught purely in a "making babies" way, but in a "this will be part of your life" way. Anyone else have an opinion on how this topic is covered, at school?
 
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"Beans and franks!"

Information of all types are shotgunned too quickly these days in the "NOW" generation. Copy and paste from another place, we skipped the "KNOW" generation.

The mass of mankind at their current evolutionary point are not equipped to handle the flood of stuff that technology avails them.

Simple sheep need simple grass, with an occasional carrot.

Not much on topic, sorry.
 
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Sex has always been a touchy subject. ;) I like the way they handle sex education in our school district. At the grade level sex education has been determined to take place, beforehand the schools sends information to the parents. It spells out in pretty clear terms what will be taught to the student. The parents must sign and agree to allow their child to participate, or sign to disagree, and the student does not participate in the sex education at that grade. It is offered in multiple grades, so if the parent does not feel the age of their child is appropriate to learn about sex education, they still have that option in future grades. What I like best is that the school district leaves the ultimate decision of sex education for the child in the hands of the parent.
 
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If they covered the subject when I was in school I wasn't paying attention. I recall some funky-looking diagrams in a biology textbook. Everything worked out in the end...though I am not at the end as yet. Any day now! as the song has it. But, that's life. I don't know what to make of what is or is not taught in schools. No kids. We tried. The way you presented the information, Claire, sounds like all is well. Heh! I'd love to have a small child come home and tell me he/she learned all about erections today. How were you able to keep a straight face? For some reason...that comedic actor comes to mind...purple top hat...did he play Willie Wonka? Know who I mean?
 
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Reminded of Peggy Hill ("King of the Hill") teaching sex ed as a sub teacher because the primary one "took a leave of absence."

Puritanical Peggy couldn't say "that certain word," so she worked her way through the sylababbles:

Happiness.

Ha-ppiness.

Hap-piness.

etc., etc., until finally:

PENIS!
 
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HollyGolightly said:
LOL -Claire - we definitely got the edited version when I was in school - I got most of my sex education from Judy Blume.
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Me too! I remember that they had a whole movie on menstrual cycles and I have since learned that at least 50% of it was a lie!!!

I hope when I have a kid this age they learn frankly about human sexuality. Though, I live in the US, where that's not allowed, so I'm going to teach them myself.
 
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Our state does very little with sex ed until high school, and then it's a very edited version--mainly a "These are boy parts, these are girl. They fit together, but we can't tell you how. Or anything about STDs. Or contraceptives."--lol

I don't have any problem talking to my kids about sex and bodies and surrounding topics, so it wasn't a problem for us. I do feel for the kids whose parents don't think the same way. Such ignorance on display. Every year there's an article in the paper around prom time, detailing cops who've caught kids using baggies for condoms, reusing them, even. One enterprising lad was selling 'birth control pills' (candy) outside a local prom; one at a time, because everyone knows you only take one when you're going to have sex. He made a mint before he was caught. Teen pregnancy is invasive, as are STDs. I had a grown woman tell me that a belly button is where the baby was attached to the mother's belly button *smdh*
 
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When my kids were in jr. high, they could be opted into a "sex education" class through special permission. If it would have been an informative, realistic class, I would have signed the permission slip. As it was, it was controlled by a certain religion and I didn't want their idea of sex education to poison my children.

The class was led by an adult, but had kids from the high school as helpers. Their message was one of abstinence and going to hell. My older son informed me the kids that were the helpers were sexually active and were lying through their teeth for their church and God.
 
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Rational, scientific, structured teaching seems to me the best way. Preferably by a parent, but since most of them today are asshats, by a good schoolteacher or a higher professional.

With the frenzied p0rn freely available on the internut these days, it seems like Olympic Coitus is cumming soon.

Maybe they'll call it "Paired Gymnastics" or something.

Instead of a Gold Medal, winner gets a Pearl Medal?

And chlamydia.
 
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Dana Jean said:
When my kids were in jr. high, they could be opted into a "sex education" class through special permission. If it would have been an informative, realistic class, I would have signed the permission slip. As it was, it was controlled by a certain religion and I didn't want their idea of sex education to poison my children.

The class was led by an adult, but had kids from the high school as helpers. Their message was one of abstinence and going to hell. My older son informed me the kids that were the helpers were sexually active and were lying through their teeth for their church and God.
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I think you must live in my state ;) No hell, though--the predominant religion believes that if you're here you've already avoided that.
 
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DiO'Bolic said:
It is offered in multiple grades, so if the parent does not feel the age of their child is appropriate to learn about sex education, they still have that option in future grades.
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At what age is a child not able to handle science and human biology? Why do we act like a basic biological function is something that is "appropriate?" We teach kids about urination and defication. We teach kids the biology of the human eye. Why is one particular function so ridiculously segregated?
 
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Kids need to know early.

Thanks to that gnarly beast Evolution, there exists an inevitable urge to "commingle." Plus it is fun and feels good.

It can also ruin many lives.

One cannot take responsibility without foreknowledge.

Teach before The Urge strikes and let the chips fall as they may. We can't micromanage the universe.
 
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Walter Oobleck said:
If they covered the subject when I was in school I wasn't paying attention. I recall some funky-looking diagrams in a biology textbook. Everything worked out in the end...though I am not at the end as yet. Any day now! as the song has it. But, that's life. I don't know what to make of what is or is not taught in schools. No kids. We tried. The way you presented the information, Claire, sounds like all is well. Heh! I'd love to have a small child come home and tell me he/she learned all about erections today. How were you able to keep a straight face? For some reason...that comedic actor comes to mind...purple top hat...did he play Willie Wonka? Know who I mean?
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It was pretty easy.... What WASN'T so easy was his friend who I drop off up the roads comments. He announced in the car "And we learnt you can have sex with more than one person. I knew that anyway, but it was good to really know." My boy seemed genuinely baffled with this and said "Can you?" The friend said "Yes, people that do that are called "players". They have sex with all the good looking women. They go to strip clubs and bars and that's why they're called "players"" Pretty sure that bit wasn't part of the lesson!. When I dropped the friend off, I had a casual chat with my boy and said the bit about players was kind of true but it was probably best just to have one partner at a time and have sex with someone you really cared about. Kept it all light and casual.

I think this is a good age because they are being taught, hopefully before they start tripping up on stuff on the internet. If they can learn that sex is part of a loving relationship before being exposed to internet porn, it might make them stop, look, and realise that isn't the real world on the computer, sure porn can play a part IN a loving relationship, but a relationship is better than staring at a computer screen on your own, if that actually makes any sense at all.
 
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