Out of cowardice ? Social / economical pressure ? One of her personalities prevailed ?
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...it wasn't....I wouldn't call their marriage happy. Her husband didn't care about her and almost killed her with his sexual game.
It has been a little while since I read this, and I have read this book twice. I do not think he was mean to her at first - their marriage had gotten humdrum and he wanted to spice things up a bit (but ended up getting more than he bargained for). A very creepy concept for a plot, though, don't you think? I liked this book.Out of cowardice ? Social / economical pressure ? One of her personalities prevailed ?
Have taken it out of the thread title.Is it just me or does the "(soon to become dog food)" part of this title constitute a spoiler? I know that if I had not read the book this would be kind of a bummer to know beforehand. Maybe it can be removed? Mods?
Thanks Marsha! As usual, going above and beyond... and it's only January 7!!!Have taken it out of the thread title.
It's obvious from this post why your wife married you. I'd say she's the lucky one.Why does anyone marry anyone? I can tell you that my wife is WAY out of my league. I'm not just saying that. Every single male friend I have agrees entirely with that. When we meet new people they look at her, then me, then back at her and wonder how in Heaven's name did that happen. Seriously. My Pastor in Massachusetts told me that I "have a beautiful family." And we only had a baby at the time. What he meant, but would never say, was how did you land her. I passed up my own 20 year reunion at West Point to take her to her 20 year high school reunion (she was a cheerleader at her high school) because I wanted to see how her old friends responded to me. As expected, surprise. I've tried to post a picture from our wedding as an avatar but haven't been able to make it work. If I did, you'd understand what I'm saying. She's a stunningly beautiful woman.
I know why she says she married me: because I was always honest with her and she could trust me entirely. I know why I chased her: because she was crazy gorgeous. But after 21 years of marriage I agree that marriages change over time. I can tell you this though, I love her more and more every day. She is one of the most un-lazy people I know. She works all the time, at my office, taking care of the kids and the house. But mostly, I wake up each morning, look at her and pinch myself again...how did this happen? I'm the most blessed man in the world.
But, in this book, the way I read it was that she "settled" because she retreated from her past and let it affect how she saw herself and her worth. That may be wrong, but it's how I saw it.
Kelly
Perhaps what that pastor meant by 'beautiful' was that he could see the joy in your and your wife's eyes? Stop worrying about what other folks think, my friend. You have someone who loves you, that's more than enough.Why does anyone marry anyone? I can tell you that my wife is WAY out of my league. I'm not just saying that. Every single male friend I have agrees entirely with that. When we meet new people they look at her, then me, then back at her and wonder how in Heaven's name did that happen. Seriously. My Pastor in Massachusetts told me that I "have a beautiful family." And we only had a baby at the time. What he meant, but would never say, was how did you land her. I passed up my own 20 year reunion at West Point to take her to her 20 year high school reunion (she was a cheerleader at her high school) because I wanted to see how her old friends responded to me. As expected, surprise. I've tried to post a picture from our wedding as an avatar but haven't been able to make it work. If I did, you'd understand what I'm saying. She's a stunningly beautiful woman.
I know why she says she married me: because I was always honest with her and she could trust me entirely. I know why I chased her: because she was crazy gorgeous. But after 21 years of marriage I agree that marriages change over time. I can tell you this though, I love her more and more every day. She is one of the most un-lazy people I know. She works all the time, at my office, taking care of the kids and the house. But mostly, I wake up each morning, look at her and pinch myself again...how did this happen? I'm the most blessed man in the world.
But, in this book, the way I read it was that she "settled" because she retreated from her past and let it affect how she saw herself and her worth. That may be wrong, but it's how I saw it.
Kelly
Perhaps what that pastor meant by 'beautiful' was that he could see the joy in your and your wife's eyes? Stop worrying about what other folks think, my friend. You have someone who loves you, that's more than enough.
Try resizing your photo smaller. Ms Mod helped me figure that out. Then use the Upload a File option for the posting window (lower righthand corner where Post Reply and Preview are). If you succeed then we'll all be able to see how grotesque (not) you are. Personally, I like seeing couples like how you describe you and your wife to be.Why does anyone marry anyone? I can tell you that my wife is WAY out of my league. I'm not just saying that. Every single male friend I have agrees entirely with that. When we meet new people they look at her, then me, then back at her and wonder how in Heaven's name did that happen. Seriously. My Pastor in Massachusetts told me that I "have a beautiful family." And we only had a baby at the time. What he meant, but would never say, was how did you land her. I passed up my own 20 year reunion at West Point to take her to her 20 year high school reunion (she was a cheerleader at her high school) because I wanted to see how her old friends responded to me. As expected, surprise. I've tried to post a picture from our wedding as an avatar but haven't been able to make it work. If I did, you'd understand what I'm saying. She's a stunningly beautiful woman.
I know why she says she married me: because I was always honest with her and she could trust me entirely. I know why I chased her: because she was crazy gorgeous. But after 21 years of marriage I agree that marriages change over time. I can tell you this though, I love her more and more every day. She is one of the most un-lazy people I know. She works all the time, at my office, taking care of the kids and the house. But mostly, I wake up each morning, look at her and pinch myself again...how did this happen? I'm the most blessed man in the world.
But, in this book, the way I read it was that she "settled" because she retreated from her past and let it affect how she saw herself and her worth. That may be wrong, but it's how I saw it.
Kelly
It's obvious from this post why your wife married you. I'd say she's the lucky one.
Try resizing your photo smaller. Ms Mod helped me figure that out. Then use the Upload a File option for the posting window (lower righthand corner where Post Reply and Preview are). If you succeed then we'll all be able to see how grotesque (not) you are. Personally, I like seeing couples like how you describe you and your wife to be.
Some, if not most, beautiful women at some time in their lives feel their looks are a burden; even a curse, since no one really sees them. I think my little sister felt that way. She was humble despite looking like an angel. Her first hubby was gorgeous, but couldn't be trusted. Her second and final hubby wasn't gorgeous, but she'd learned her lesson by then, and she and he were very happy. (I say "were" because she passed away.)
I know people sometimes get married from one or more of a variety of wrong reasons. Mine was that I was tired of being alone and lonely while ignorant of how not to be, and went after someone who felt similarly. Believe it or not she and I were never really in love. So, if I ever remarry it will be to someone who I sincerely believe I must be with due to being in love, and who sincerely feels the same way about me. Differences will always be present, but so will love; so, arguments will be inevitable but they won't win.
you are handsome, too. People should not be surprised seeing you two married.Why does anyone marry anyone? I can tell you that my wife is WAY out of my league. I'm not just saying that. Every single male friend I have agrees entirely with that. When we meet new people they look at her, then me, then back at her and wonder how in Heaven's name did that happen. Seriously. My Pastor in Massachusetts told me that I "have a beautiful family." And we only had a baby at the time. What he meant, but would never say, was how did you land her. I passed up my own 20 year reunion at West Point to take her to her 20 year high school reunion (she was a cheerleader at her high school) because I wanted to see how her old friends responded to me. As expected, surprise. I've tried to post a picture from our wedding as an avatar but haven't been able to make it work. If I did, you'd understand what I'm saying. She's a stunningly beautiful woman.
I know why she says she married me: because I was always honest with her and she could trust me entirely. I know why I chased her: because she was crazy gorgeous. But after 21 years of marriage I agree that marriages change over time. I can tell you this though, I love her more and more every day. She is one of the most un-lazy people I know. She works all the time, at my office, taking care of the kids and the house. But mostly, I wake up each morning, look at her and pinch myself again...how did this happen? I'm the most blessed man in the world.
But, in this book, the way I read it was that she "settled" because she retreated from her past and let it affect how she saw herself and her worth. That may be wrong, but it's how I saw it.
Kelly
Viola? You have an avatar?That's what Mod told me and I did. Viola. I have an avatar. That was 21 years ago. We're older, but she's very young-looking. I think most would peg her around 35, though she's 44.
On the second part, loneliness is a feeling I've had, and though I'd rather have that than be with someone wrong, it sure sucked for me. I hated it. "It's not good that man should be alone." Truer words never spoken. But I agree that it takes love or nothing ever works. Love is a funny word. It means very different things to different people. So you'd have to make sure she means the same thing you do when you say it to each other. And emotions are tricky. They have to be watched closely.
Kelly