She still has a loving spot for him. But, you can love more than one person at a time. People are complicated.If I was happily married-absolutely not.
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She still has a loving spot for him. But, you can love more than one person at a time. People are complicated.If I was happily married-absolutely not.
Me too.There are very few things I WOULDN'T change.
I completely understand where you're coming from, but I am very warped in my mindset. If she was happily married and financially taken care of (which we assume she would've been since they had a nice home and he was a successful writer) I see it as a betrayal.She still has a loving spot for him. But, you can love more than one person at a time. People are complicated.
Interesting, even if he is dead?I completely understand where you're coming from, but I am very warped in my mindset. If she was happily married and financially taken care of (which we assume she would've been since they had a nice home and he was a successful writer) I see it as a betrayal.
Yes.Interesting, even if he is dead?
If he is deceased, and perhaps a couple of years go by, would it still be betrayal if she would be married again years later?I completely understand where you're coming from, but I am very warped in my mindset. If she was happily married and financially taken care of (which we assume she would've been since they had a nice home and he was a successful writer) I see it as a betrayal.
Morgan, that is an interesting view. Part of the marriage vows we take are 'until death do us part'. Do you believe we are reunited with our husband or wife after we die? (not to pick apart, but to clearly understand)Yes.
I know I don't see this the way "normal" people do. But if someone has given you great love, a family, security and everything else possible-I don't think I could betray the memory of my deceased love by remarrying.If he is deceased, and perhaps a couple of years go by, would it still be betrayal if she would be married again years later?
It's okay Sweetheart. Every person is entitled to an opinion, I just want to make sure I understand yours clearly. I do understand what you are saying. If they were really in love, I agree it would be hard to remarry.I know I don't see this the way "normal" people do. But if someone has given you great love, a family, security and everything else possible-I don't think I could betray the memory of my deceased love by remarrying.
I really don't know, but certainly wish I did. I always wondered about this though. People who've been happily married more than once on this earth because of death taking a spouse-if we are reunited in the afterlife, which spouse would you be tied to or obligated to? Or would everyone love each other equally and these thoughts would never occur?Morgan, that is an interesting view. Part of the marriage vows we take are 'until death do us part'. Do you believe we are reunited with our husband or wife after we die? (not to pick apart, but to clearly understand)
Yep-I'm living this every day. It hits me at the strangest times-usually throwing me completely off balance.It did seem as though Katie was heartbroken (even and still). This is such typical grief. Sneaking in and popping up when it is least expected.
This is a lovely thought. I've never been able to recapture anything good in my life, but am very happy some people actually do.Remarrying could also be a compliment to the deceased spouse in a way. You loved your marriage, you loved married life -- you want to try and capture that again.
(((Morgan))) I think we each have to go individually into the great beyond. Family, parents, children, critters, close friends may be on the other shore, but I don't think we have the same societal or spousal relations. I always imagined it would be one big happy party. We are all with each other and no one is 'owned' or 'assigned' to each other. Just think, wouldn't it be cool to go have a cup of coffee with God or how about anyone else who has died?Yep-I'm living this every day. It hits me at the strangest times-usually throwing me completely off balance.
(((Morgan))) I think we each have to go individually into the great beyond. Family, parents, children, critters, close friends may be on the other shore, but I don't think we have the same societal or spousal relations. I always imagined it would be one big happy party. We are all with each other and no one is 'owned' or 'assigned' to each other. Just think, wouldn't it be cool to go have a cup of coffee with God or how about anyone else who has died?