Gimme back my money!

[Jaedpact]

My Old man tells me that the only thing he can offer is a mirror into how not to live my life. I can relate to what you are saying about your family.

[SusanNorton]

Srbo, beautiful story of your father...Thank you.

I was raised with the saying "Never a borrower or a lender be" and "Never lend a friend money, for that will end the friendship" After a few mishaps, I found those old sayings to be true.
I have a friend in a very tight situation--she lived at a campground all summer because she lost her home (update--she just got into a co-op) and I wanted to bail her out so badly. BUT, am I wanting to do this for her or for my ego? So, I gave her smokes, gave her some clothes for her kids that Ben outgrew, gave her all kinds of junk...she never left my house without a bag of something...but I never gave her a dime...
It's a win -win. And nobody owes anyone.

Anni - you are so smart! Your friend is lucky to have you.

[Srbo]

Anni, that`s pure wisdom.

Thank you for sharing and the kind words.

[Jaedpact]

I have a similar tale. I've got a couple of close friends that have had a rough go of living here recently. I was inclined to attempt to give them cash to make things smoother, but decided against it as i didn't wish to disrespect them or cause any feelings of charity or pity or obligation. I was able to give them my POS car mobile. I recently upgraded vehicles and just couldn't see myself selling the old green goblin a 1995 mitsu mirage 5 speed manual transmition with no ac ( in texas thats a death sentence) and a strange smell of transmition and other oils combined into funk from the trunk. They got the car and have been able to find work and have a way to get to and from. Turns out my buddy is extremely handy with cars.

[Anni M]

Anni - you are so smart! Your friend is lucky to have you.

Thank you, Susan.
And I'm lucky to have her...she is ALWAYS straight up with me and if I need a boot in the butt, she has the jam to do it! That's a true friend--one who won't coddle me if I'm having a snarky and/or hissy fit! She just says "Get over yourself!" LOL

[Srbo]

Thanks for sharing, jaedpact.

[tracie]

i understand the way your father acted about the money situation i think when he lent the money he was prepared to lose it or he really believed that he was more fortunate than others i've done the same and every time i lend money i always feel fortunate that i actually have the money to lend and i never asked for it back like your farther said his friend had to come to him.money is material, human kindness is priceless you should be very proud to have a father that had those priceless values