I have been chomping at the bit to spill this secret, and it is finally ok to do so...
I am going to be a Grandma again!
Brandon and Alyssa are expecting again, the baby is due in October.
It has been a very long, stressful few months. First, you want to be excited, but the worry is there the baby will have the same genetic thing going on that caused us to lose Ahmira. We knew from the genetic testing that Alyssa was a carrier, and we were told that Brandon had to be a carrier as well, because it takes 2 carriers to have the disease manifest. But the insurance company balked at testing them both, said there was no reason. I don't know how that is so, since they had already lost a baby due to it.)
So we waited, trying to be encouraging and positive, but worrying the whole time, until it was safe to do an amnio, at 4 months. Normal amnio results take around 10 days...we waited almost 6 weeks, and the results were unclear. They knew the gene was there, but couldn't tell if it was from Alyssa, because the sample had a little of her blood in it, or if it was from the fluid, or if it was showing that the baby would be a carrier only, in which case would be ok, or if the disease would show up as in Ahmira.
About 2 weeks ago, they had an ultrasound and we had the first real glimmer of hope that things were going to be ok. The baby's kidneys were normal size and all of the amniotic fluid was there. (That was the first sign of trouble with little Ahmira, her kidneys were very big at the 6 month ultrasound, and she was using up the fluid and not putting any back out.) This ultrasound was done about 2 weeks later in the pregnancy than the one with Ahmira, so we had our first reason to think everything would be ok.
Brandon gave some blood so they could isolate his side of the genetic code in the baby, and we just today got the results. The baby will be a carrier, it does have one half. But only one half...so it will not have this disease, and we should have a new healthy, bouncing baby boy in the family soon. (Oh yeah...it's a boy! )
I wanted so many times to ask for prayers and positive vibes from you all. Brandon and Alyssa wanted to keep everything quiet though, until we knew for sure, one way or the other.
I will, however, ask for prayers and positive vibes from you all now! I still have some fear and anxiety even while there is immense relief and joy.
Big big thank yous and hugs going out to Spidey, because I did confide in her right from the beginning, and she held my hand all the way. Kept me being Pooh. Thank you, Spidey.