It could also be because so many birth mothers change their minds, and the adoptive couple is then out money, time and hope...I would think celebrities would be pretty susceptible to being taken advantage of in that way, with their resources and their names. (Not that I think that every birth mother who changes her mind is just out to take advantage and have someone pay expenses...but it does happen.)
It does seem to be a very long, drawn out process, and many people have their hearts broken after thinking they are getting a baby.
I think the reason some people want babies is a chance to reduce the "heart ache risk" if a child has problems. I know of two different families that adopted girls from problemed home environments. There was some success, then problems, one case ending very bad; one just "not good".
That is a good question and really we should look toward our own people in this country than all others. If I ever adapted a child I would feed them with knowledge, good judgement, teach them to read, show them that money is not everything, challenge them to grow more.
That is just some of the things I will teach a child.
...and as far as celebs go...what better way to get your name in the news yet again, than because you adopted a child from another country...oh how noble!...
Thank you. That's what I was thinking. Celebs get their name on the news for adopting from another country.
I know one successful comedian who has adopted 3 crack infants from the US and he didn't make a big hoopla about it. He has a huge heart and the money to get his kids the best care, (therapy, medical attention, etc.) and a happy, healthy home with a Daddy who loves them.
Thank you for your posts. I learned a lot about why people may go in search of children out of the country than adopt from the US. Good points! Again, thank you.
Ms. Staro made a very good point. I also have had the experience of working with kids in foster care or wards of the state.
I saw kids from the age of 3-16 who would see a couple come into the facility and their eyes would light up hoping, hoping, hoping, that they would be the ONE who would be adopted. (Yes, even the tweenies and teens are hoping SOMEONE would want them.) I also saw kids who had a sibling or two and they hoped that a family would be willing to adopt them and their sibs. It doesn't happen often. Bummer.
I understand that we have standards and procedures to ensure the children go to a stable and healthy family but,...maybe... we could be a little more open and open minded when considering a couple/family who want to adopt.
Single parents, bi-racial, gay, or middle income.
I'm trying to say this correctly.
I think there are children who would be happy and thankful to be adopted by one parent, gay parent, or middle income parent(s). I don't believe that a child would be angry or upset being adopted by loving parent(s) that cannot afford to buy them a goodie roonie X-box, private schools, a new car. Just to be adopted by a human being that really wants to have a child to love, care for and be there for them.
(I'm goofy, I know.)
Last edited by Sigmund; July 29th, 2013 at 08:46 PM.
Reason: I told you! I'm goofy! Ha!
"I saw kids from the age of 3-16 who would see a couple come into the facility and their eyes would light up hoping, hoping, hoping, that they would be the ONE who would be adopted. (Yes, even the tweenies and teens are hoping SOMEONE would want them.)"
Oh God Siggy - you brought tears to my eyes - that is just so sad
That is a very good question you have asked. The problem of adoption is very important nowadays. I also don't understand why people adopt children from other countries. Wouldn't children feel better in their native country? Oh the other hand, again, they would like to be adopted by anyone who would love them.
I am also sad about the cases when people adopt children and then abuse, hurt them... Recently, there has been too many cases when people adopted a child from another country and then they treated him badly. I don't know, maybe the problem is not that they adopt children from abroad, the important part is who adopts them and why such people are approved for adoption.
I just wish more good people who are capable of adopting a child would do that and make a child happy.
At the end of the day adopting is something deeply personal and it's a choice only they can make. Celebrities are doing what they need to in getting the family they want. There are 150 million children around the world who are living without their parents and all of them are needy, but children in less developed countries are at a particular disadvantage and are easier to adopt.