Falmouth of the Mighty BlueGrass State and Commonwealth of Kentucky
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Re: Senior Abuse...........
That's pretty much what happened to my best pal, he was in his mid seventies with a recent heart bypass surgery and a stylish new pace maker.
His son moved him 700 miles away and almost immediately started throwin' and givin' and away a life time of his collecting a higher end curiosity shop's worth of curious antiquities, and to be honest, a lotta junk, buncha groovy junk, but junk, but it was his junk, and it wasn't like he didn't know what his Daddy had and collected, dammit!
Then he moved him yet to another state, made him leave his car behind of course, I mean he bought a place out in the Alabama boonies after all, so like who that had never even been to the state before, could possibly need a set of wheels?
And then in six months or so he chucked him out of the new house he bought, and into a 55 and older apartment complex thing, that is once he found a really great pair of fake boobs to warm his new nest (well my bud said they were fake, and I bow to his greater experience in the faux ta-tas dept.), evidently my pal was just in the way at that point, too much trouble to make sure he made doc appointments and all the other geezer stuff, that and lil' Miss Bionic Boobs didn't like his sense of humor or the way he smelled, he suspected...to be honest, both he and his sense of humor could get a little musky sometimes, but it wasn't like they were entirely unpleasant.
Killed him dead.
Son feels bad.
...growing up, my grandparents were my best friends...and I absolutely treasure those senior to me...it's mazing what you can learn when you shut the hellp up and listen....anyone that does this to seniors, family or not?-yep, they deserve my standby...high speed, hot lead therapy...
So thankful these elders have a safe place. I do not recall any such facilities in the USA.
My best memories are of the times with my grandparents. The stories, the little things they taught me that remains still within my life. Elders have so much to give.
One of the best assignments my son had in HS was to interview several elderly people in assisted living facilities or private homes. To tape conversations of stories they recalled. Amazing assignment. The youth of today could take a long lesson from the elderly!
A little but not completely off-topic and in the everything old is new again category, there's a new trend toward multi-generational housing and the building industry is capitalizing on the need that's resulted from maybe one of the upsides of the poor economy. With the boomerang generation (20+-somethings moving back with parents) and the rising number of seniors, more families are building houses that will accommodate all three or more generations so they can save costs and assist each other. And look at this Staro, the first article I linked to from the Google search shows a photo of an Asian-American family!
I know a lot of Asian families who have their grandparents living with them. They are considered very valuable indeed. Just because one is old doesnt mean that they should be considered disposable ....they know a thing or two and can contribute greatly to society. It is amazing that this seems to be forgotten by Western standards eh.
When I was 13, way back when, lol, I had a neighbor lady that was in her 80's. I would go to her place and do some cleaning for her, but the reason why I wanted to visit her was to listen to her life's stories. I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, and this woman was a young child during the 1906 San Francisco earthquake. I remember her telling me about her and her family sitting on the roof of their house in Oakland and watched the city burn. Listening to her stories was the greatest thing to me. Now 33 years later, I still think about her and the impact she had on me. I loved being around her.
My point being, we should be embracing the elderly. We can learn so much from them.
After my Mom died I took my Dad into my home because everyone was fighting about what to do. He was in the later stages of Alzheimer's and I watched him slowly fade away. I loved him so much with all my heart and that was the hardest thing to see. It has been 10 years now since he died and it took a good two years to grieve his loss and start to feel semi-normal again.
I do like Ms. Mod's post re multigenerational families - that is an excellent idea and that is what used to happen many years ago. I remember hearing my Dad speak French to my grandfather when he lived with us in the 60s; I did not know what they were saying but I still find hearing the French language comforting to this day.