Your heart must feel like it is broken in two right now. You can't blame yourselves (like Tracy trying to figure out why out of three kids only one would do something like this). It is nothing you did that would cause this. Perhaps the peer pressure got to him and he gave in to their wishes in order to 'fit in'. I don't know. Please know that we are thinking of you and praying that all turns out okay in the long run. It must feel like a slap in the face or being violated. Kids that age sometimes go through a phase where they act like they can't stand their parents (I know I did!) but as time goes on he will regret his actions. So sorry to hear this, Scott
My heart goes out to you. Went thru something similar with my own adult son, it is heartbreaking and soul crushing when a child hurts their own family that way. I'll light a candle for you and your entire family tonight. :::sending you love, hope and healing vibes::::
I am so sorry. I have been in similar situation. Sometimes kids just get a little lost. You did nothing wrong. The reality is that we really don't have that much control in how our kids turn out. We try and guide them, teach them our view on life, try and give them some moral guidepost to live by, but in the end we all just sort of hold our breath and hope for the best. I know it sounds trite, but this too shall pass. Kids make horrible choices sometimes, but that doesn't mean that they can't learn from their mistakes. Your son has a hard lesson in front of him,but with his family's love, there is no reason why he won't make it through. In the meantime, I will be sending good thoughts out for you and your family.
Scott, my prayers are with you and yours right now.
Speaking from experience, I fell pretty low once and while my family loved me they let me fall and experience the repercussions. It was the BEST lesson I ever learned and will carry it with me forever. You would never believe what I went through when you look at me now. At some point we all have to take responsibilty for our actions. It is the only way to grow and learn. I pray your son grows and learns from this experience.
Be strong, be there for your wife and hopefully peace will find its way to your family soon.
Scott-I was saddened and touched by this thread,know that you have our support,unconditional love and respect..too early to offer any advice on the legal situation,things will settle down and take their course,if there is any advice,support,or prayers any of us can offer,I am sure you know we are all here for you..tonight,my thoughts and prayers are with you and Tracy,and your son..hang in there my friend. Mike
The same thing happened to a family member that I am extremely loving. As a teenager, he got in this kind of trouble. Hurting the family, stealing from the family and others. He got charged but was given a second chance. He is married now with children and is an engineer. None of our family members ever gave up on him...and loved him unconditionally. Understand that he is young Scott. I have seen this so often working with child welfare and street folks. Never give up on him....his morals and your raising skills may kick in as he gets older. Kids that grew up in a loving home has this advantage of changing for the better. Kids who were raised wrong and not loved are not so lucky. Do not give up on him, do not kick him out hoping that a big of rough may make him smarten up. Save your little boy....you can do it!!!!!! We love you.
I have 4 kids and they are all different, one from another.
The oldest one is pretty damn bad.
The next one is quite fine excellent.
The next two are doing well so far.
It's a crap - shoot at best.
I'm sure there is no real fault to blame,
but like that brown sound,
fault sho' do git around.
Try to keep a sense of humor,
and don't take any further nonsense
on your self.
If the kid is bad, cut him loose to face the consequences.
Best thing to do with one still young enough to learn the difference.
My heart is with you.