Frick.

[Sigmund]

Good evening.

This entire situation sucks.

http://www.insideedition.com/headlin...-meet-daughter




I do not know what to think...or say.

...

Peace.

[tenngolfer]

This sounded like a closed adoption, and was not mutual. A reference :

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Closed_adoption

Searches and reunionsFrom the early 1950s when Jean Paton began Orphan Voyage, and into the 1970s with the creation of ALMA, International Soundex Reunion Registry, Yesterday's Children, Concerned United Birthparents, Triadoption Library, and dozens of other local search and reunion organizations, there has been a grass roots support system in place for those seeking information and reunion with family.
Reunion registries were designed so adoptees and their birth parents, siblings or other family members can locate one another at little or no cost. [BGCOLOR]In these mutual consent registries, both parties must have registered in order for there to be a match.[/BGCOLOR] Most require the adoptee to be at least 18 years old. Though they did not exist until late in the 20th century, today there are many World Wide Web pages, chat rooms, and other online resources that offer search information, registration and support.

[GNTLGNT]

Kathleen said, “I have no connection with that woman. None.”

...."that woman" is your daughter you stupid bit*h!,,,SHE didn't rape you!!!...I can only imagine it was a horrific experience, but the child would have been the one good thing to come out of such violation....

[mjs9153]

Can't agree GNT,wasn't some youthful indiscretion but a rape that resulted in the birth..we can only imagine,as fellas,how horrible it must have been,but only she and the rapist knew what took place..thing is she has made her position clear,and is not about to change her mind,so the persistence by the adult child and the interviewer to force contact is troubling.. a sh%$$y situation all around,no doubt..

[Sepia and Dust]

...."that woman" is your daughter you stupid bit*h!,,,SHE didn't rape you!!!...I can only imagine it was a horrific experience, but the child would have been the one good thing to come out of such violation....

No, "that woman" is not her daughter. They share some DNA, but that's it. She's the daughter of whoever fed her and clothed her and cared for her and raised her to adulthood.

All that's owed is a family history of any medical or psychological problems.

[hossenpepper]

I think there is also an extra thing with this that the offspring shares DNA with the rapist. I can only imagine the mixed feelings this would create in someone as a rape victim.

In the end, it isn't right, it isn't wrong, it's just how this woman deals with it and who is anyone else to judge?

[atomicinchworm]

I think she did as much as she ever owed her biological daughter. She didn't abort. She adopted her out in a closed adoption. I can tell you right now that I would have absolutely not carried it to term.

The is the result of a terrible experience that the woman has spent her entire life trying to forget. I absolutely understand how she feels about the situation, and I think forcing a meeting is selfish on the daughters part. She is owed absolutely nothing.

[guido tkp]

y'know...GNT...with all due respect...that was a bit unrealistic...and far more harsh than i'd expect...

this woman did one of 'the right things' way back then (she did not have an abortion; that would've been the easy way out, legal or not...jus' sayin'...)...and she tried to put this horrific event behind her...

most likely...the only way she could do so would be to...'divorce' her feelings on all sorts of things and move well on down the road

mjs, sepia and hoss are quite right...

i feel alot more a sense of sadness for that woman than i do anyone else...it was probably like being attacked again...

[not_nadine]

Yes. I can't help to think that they took quotes and not the whole story. Terrible either way. Maybe the reporters made her upset all over again. I dunno.

Medical records, yes. I hope someone does not write a damn book.

[staropeace]

A reunion is not always the best thing....as an adopted child who met my real mother, I can testify to that. There are none of these maternal feelings or daughter's love feelings. Love is reserved for the parents who walked the floor with you when you had colic....were there when you graduated...were there always. Respect is due my birth mother who had the sense to give me up.

This birth mother is not the child's mother. They shared spit and dna and blood. She should not feel that she has to care. She was raped...why be hurt more? In the same situation, I would have had an abortion.