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Todash
January 3rd, 2013, 08:26 PM
Most of us are probably familiar with the parable of the blind men and the elephant (if not, here's the first bit of the poem:
It was six men of Indostan
To learning much inclined,
Who went to see the Elephant
(Though all of them were blind),
That each by observation
Might satisfy his mind.

The First approach'd the Elephant,
And happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side,
At once began to bawl:
"God bless me! but the Elephant
Is very like a wall!"

The Second, feeling of the tusk,
Cried, -"Ho! what have we here
So very round and smooth and sharp?
To me 'tis mighty clear
This wonder of an Elephant
Is very like a spear!"

The Third approached the animal,
And happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands,
Thus boldly up and spake:
"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant
Is very like a snake!"

The Fourth reached out his eager hand,
And felt about the knee.
"What most this wondrous beast is like
Is mighty plain," quoth he,
"'Tis clear enough the Elephant
Is very like a tree!"

The Fifth, who chanced to touch the ear,
Said: "E'en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most;
Deny the fact who can,
This marvel of an Elephant
Is very like a fan!"

The Sixth no sooner had begun
About the beast to grope,
Then, seizing on the swinging tail
That fell within his scope,
"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant
Is very like a rope!"

And so these men of Indostan
Disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion
Exceeding stiff and strong,
Though each was partly in the right,
And all were in the wrong!). I have had occasion to reflect recently that on the internet, I am an elephant. On the SKMB, I am one version of me. On Facebook, I'm another. On my blogs, another still (and it depends which blog you look at). And yet, everywhere I leave a piece of me, that piece is a real and true expression of who I am. I'm not that internet creeper your parents warned you about; heck, I don't even own a white van.

The two places I spend the most time online, with the exception of work and not counting the time I spend reading about oddities on Wikipedia, are the SKMB and Facebook. On here, mostly I'm straightforward and serious with an occasional bit of goofiness, and I use a LOT of bullet points. (I ♥ bullet points. I bet you all knew that already, huh?) But on Facebook, I give voice to every weird thought most of the weird, random, stream-of-consciousness thoughts that go through my head--and not too much of the serious stuff. And yet, in both places, I'm being completely genuine. Well, genuine. Perhaps not complete. And it's not like it's a calculated thing, either. It's just a natural division.

So I guess what I am wondering is this: are you more like me (and the elephant)? Or are you the same everywhere? I think most people with an extensive online existence have those little compartments, but maybe not. I'm wondering where the dividing line is, too; when does normal human interaction become dishonesty?

GNTLGNT
January 4th, 2013, 07:58 AM
...I'm an idiot in any reality...just ask anyone...

Neesy
January 4th, 2013, 08:15 AM
"So I guess what I am wondering is this: are you more like me (and the elephant)? Or are you the same everywhere?"

Am I like you (and the elephant)? Hmmm - good question. I used to only go on Facebook but I got kinda sick of it. So much stupid stuff on there. I see people with 900 - 2000 "friends". It was amusing at first but lately I have not bothered to go on it all. I only joined Facebook to keep in touch with my son in Edmonton. I think SKMB is a bit more anonymous. On Facebook I have put tons of photos as well as where I have been in the world (you should see my map!) It is very advertising heavy as well and of course they don't have a great monitor like Ms. Mod! (Ooops - I am sorry - is my nose a bit brown today?)

You do make a very good point, however and I loved that poem about the elephant. Have a great day and TGIF! Yay! The weekend is coming at last!:o

Moderator
January 4th, 2013, 08:23 AM
Is it actually dishonesty? I think we all have those pieces that make us a whole and we bring them out as befits where we are at the moment, sort of the time and place for everything kind of thinking. I'm going to act more serious at a business meeting than I would with friends but they're both parts of my whole self.

fushingfeef
January 4th, 2013, 08:38 AM
You should watch the Woody Allen movie "Zelig", Todash. It's a story about a human chameleon. Whatever the people around him are like, that's how he acts (and even physically changes).

I think this is normal. Who here talks to their grandmother the same way they talk to their bar buddies?

Neesy
January 4th, 2013, 08:45 AM
...I'm an idiot in any reality...just ask anyone...
No you aren't! You are one of the funniest people on this board. I love your pictures. Thanks for all the laughs you have provided! :tongue::rofl:

PatInTheHat
January 4th, 2013, 08:51 AM
Good one, hmmmm...
What ya don't see is what ya don't get:geek:.
(and just maybe what may could quite possibly be considered by some:oo:..:eek2:yeah yeah fine, by many, to be a gianormous :zip: heap o' cussin'...Hi, my name is Pat and I am a potty-mouth-o-holic:rolleyes:)

fljoe0
January 4th, 2013, 08:51 AM
I don't think we are just different on the internet but we have several different personalities we use depending on the situation. I don't like to think of it as dishonesty, just adaptability. :biggrin2:

When you own a business, you have to have this "adaptability" when dealing with the wide variety of customers you encounter. When the local "snake handling" church :biggrin2: calls you and want you to do some work for them, you are probably going to have some kind of conversation with the pastor of this "snake handling" church and the last thing you are going to say to him is that you think he's nuts. But, when you do tell your friends you think he's nuts. No disrespect intended for any religious snake handlers on the board (see I just did it again).

We may be bolder in our comments on the internet, however, because of the anonymity.

Spideyman
January 4th, 2013, 08:59 AM
I think it has to do with demeanor/mien-- how a person acts in different situations. Like MsMod and Fush stated, we act different to our surroundings/ or the people we are interacting with. (SKMB/FB/Blogs) All in all, we are still the same person, just demonstrating different aspects of out personality.

Haunted
January 4th, 2013, 09:35 AM
I believe most of us conduct ourselves accordingly within the boundaries presented by an environment. Facebook is almost like a free-for-all thus people feel almost uninhibited. (I personally feel it is a PITA and I am not talking about the animal rescue persons.) Here in this place we are a guest of Mr. King's and our interactions are moderated by a wise and incredibly patient Ms. Mod. The atmosphere here is of books, reading and learning (at least that is my feeling) and a very special one.

Todash
January 4th, 2013, 10:08 AM
Is it actually dishonesty? I think we all have those pieces that make us a whole and we bring them out as befits where we are at the moment, sort of the time and place for everything kind of thinking. I'm going to act more serious at a business meeting than I would with friends but they're both parts of my whole self.
Yeah, I think so too. But I also think there's a line you can cross, some gray area--one thing about the internet that blows my mind is how people feel free to be completely nasty, and you KNOW most of them would not act that way in meatspace--and I think it might be worth checking oneself occasionally to make sure we aren't turning into "that guy."

atomicinchworm
January 4th, 2013, 10:13 AM
I think I am pretty much the same. I do a little self editing on Facebook (not always, but some statuses) because my atheism upsets my parents, and I've got some younger cousins I don't want to explain why I feel that way to. I'm kind of an a**hole, but I am occasionally cognizant of other people. ;)

To be fair, Todash, you keep it pretty light on facebook too. :P

doowopgirl
January 4th, 2013, 10:14 AM
I am always me. But as has been pinted out by other people here, there are slightly different 'me' in different situations. Like if we are in a more serious occasion or one where silliness or more casual behaviour is called for. But this is my favorite me.

GNTLGNT
January 4th, 2013, 11:00 AM
No you aren't! You are one of the funniest people on this board. I love your pictures. Thanks for all the laughs you have provided! :tongue::rofl:

...thanks honey, but I are proud of being Chief of Clan Goofball...it's what I do...:cool2:

CCAL
January 4th, 2013, 11:25 AM
I'm just me even if it ticks someone off. I feel like I cant afford to be what someone else wants/needs me to be.I'm just glad to still be here.

Shasta
January 4th, 2013, 12:33 PM
That is a very good and thought-provoking post.

I personally think I'm more myself on the Internet that I am in person. As you all know by now, I can come on a little strong so as I age I have tried to tone that down in real life a bit. Heck, even on here I've tried to tone it down a bit. But on my blog I'm all out evil Shasta.

I don't at all feel like it's being dishonest. I really feel like to be in a social society it's better to adapt to situations. My 16-year-old-self would strongly disagree with that but my 16-year-old-self has learned a lot of lessons since then.

Tim D.
January 24th, 2013, 12:58 AM
I am always me, though slight variations in demeanor do occur depending on the company I'm in. For example, if you're an idiot I can get angry and have trouble hiding the fact that I wouldn't mind elbowing you in the face. In the short time I've been a member of the SKMB it has pretty much supplanted Facebook as my internet hangout place. I find here that I can indulge in intelligent conversations with a cool group of people, discuss my favorite books and movies and such, and even act goofy if the mood so hits me. Facebook is increasingly holding less interest for me, due to the fact that the rise of social media has convinced every single person on the planet that even the most moronic thought that goes through their head needs to be shared and discussed. A quote from Dean Koontz pretty much sums up my feelings about Facebook these days:

“Human beings can always be relied upon to exert, with vigor, their God-given right to be stupid. ”