A bit random and sudden but...(personal family issue alert)

[Dave Sartin]

Well...last night my sister had mixed depression medication with alcohol and started threatening her boyfriend with a beer bottle. I stepped in and tried to break up the fight, but things went for the worst. She decided she wanted a fight. A fight she got and a fight she lost. The whole reason to this story is this. She now has nothing to do with me. At all. Doesnt even want to acknowledge my presence when we are in the same room. So my question is, am I in the wrong or did i do the right thing?

[Moderator]

It could have ended with someone being physically injured or worse, so am glad everyone is okay in that respect. She's angry and her judgment is/was impaired and it's still very close to the situation. It may take a little while for her to cool down and realize you were looking out for her best interests. Is there someone else whose opinion she would value enough to listen to try to have her realize she needed your intervention and her anger is misplaced?

[gniknehpets]

Ms Mod is right. Give your sister a little time but let her know you are there for her.

[~Ally~]

I'm confuzzled, by a "fight she got and a fight she lost" do you mean it became physical? Without witnessing what took place I can't say whether you were right or wrong. Yes it's right to intervene if someone is being threatened with violence, but if you're intervention also included violence/arguing then that could only exacerbate the situation further.

What other people think is irrelevant anyway, you're the only one who can decide if you're comfortable with how you responded to the situation. If you are then great, if you feel uncomfortable then maybe you need to reflect upon why that is. Hope you guys fix this issue soon.

[Neesy]

Well...last night my sister had mixed depression medication with alcohol and started threatening her boyfriend with a beer bottle. I stepped in and tried to break up the fight, but things went for the worst. She decided she wanted a fight. A fight she got and a fight she lost. The whole reason to this story is this. She now has nothing to do with me. At all. Doesnt even want to acknowledge my presence when we are in the same room. So my question is, am I in the wrong or did i do the right thing?
As I am unsure what "A fight she got and a fight she lost" means exactly then it is hard to render an opinion. Was she physically injured in the fight? i.e. by you? Even if you are her brother, normally a guy has more strength than a woman so I hope she was just humiliated but not beat up or anything. Besides, as it only happened last night then perhaps she just needs time to get over it! Hope things get patched up between you and your sis. Family is important

[Haunted]

Oh, Dave so sorry you had to go through that but your sister had lost her control and someone had to intervene before anyone was hurt or even worse.

Give her time, her ego is a bit bruised and I am sure she is having some bad recollections of her behavior.:love:

[Becks19]

Dave, Sending calming vibes to you and yours. Perhaps like everyone said here, after a bit of time your Sister will realize you were only trying to help.(((Dave and Family)))

[JellybeanJay]

If this just happened last night, your sister may need some time to cool off.

[king family fan]

Ditto on what everyone else has said. I hope all works out well for you and your sister.

[Jojo87]

Oh, Dave so sorry you had to go through that but your sister had lost her control and someone had to intervene before anyone was hurt or even worse.

Give her time, her ego is a bit bruised and I am sure she is having some bad recollections of her behavior.:love:

I agree with you Haunted.

[PatInTheHat]

The whole reason to this story is this. She now has nothing to do with me. At all. Doesnt even want to acknowledge my presence when we are in the same room.
Sounds like a good thing, but then I have family members that have considered that the wisest course of inaction, for years..:umm:..hmm, a few for a couple decades or so, my how time sho' does fly when your not being irritated and disturbed.
Depressed lushes come around when & if they are ever capable of coming around, and there ain't nothing, not one thing, you can do about til they actually want it...word.

[blunthead]

Sounds like a good thing, but then I have family members that have considered that the wisest course of inaction, for years..:umm:..hmm, a few for a couple decades or so, my how time sho' does fly when your not being irritated and disturbed.
Depressed lushes come around when & if they are ever capable of coming around, and there ain't nothing, not one thing, you can do about til they actually want it...word.Word, indeed.


Well...last night my sister had mixed depression medication with alcohol and started threatening her boyfriend with a beer bottle. I stepped in and tried to break up the fight, but things went for the worst. She decided she wanted a fight. A fight she got and a fight she lost. The whole reason to this story is this. She now has nothing to do with me. At all. Doesnt even want to acknowledge my presence when we are in the same room. So my question is, am I in the wrong or did i do the right thing?

Dave, what do you mean about your sister losing the fight? Are you afraid you might've gone too far in some way?

[kingricefan]

If you physically hurt her, then you were in the wrong. But, we really don't have all the facts from what you're written so far. If you just restrained her from hurting herself or others, then maybe it was the right thing to do? She needs time to cool off. maybe you do to? Let us know what happens. Be cool!!

[Shasta]

Dave, what do you mean about your sister losing the fight? Are you afraid you might've gone too far in some way?

I don't know. This comes across to me as proud, not concerned:

A fight she got and a fight she lost

But, alas, who am I to judge. I wasn't there.

[staropeace]

Dave, I have to wonder why everything is strife with you. How did you sis lose the fight? Why were you involved in it to begin with? It is hard to give an opinion when the facts are not well known.

[fushingfeef]

You did the right thing if you had to defend yourself, I've been in that situation before with a drunk relative, a long long time ago. Things will cool down and you'll start talking again.

[GNTLGNT]

...another big old hot mess young sir?....if you helped de-escalate the situation-good on you, if it had to turn physical-only as a last resort to keep someone from harming themselves or someone else...as far as her not speaking, she chose her course of action as did you-she can get over her snit-but sounds like family therapy is in order...

[not_nadine]

So if this was posted for feedback, I would like to know in what way she "lost the fight". I don't like the sound of that either way.

Respond please Dave.